Mohels are human beings. This is no more a flaw than any person in the world has, but it is an important reminder that mohels are imperfect.
In conversations I have had with people who discover I am mohel, I get different reactions from people who speak out the experience they had with their son’s bris, ranging from speaking glowingly of their mohel to changing the subject quickly because their experience was not worth talking about.
This blog post, therefore, is a reminder to mohels that it’s not just about the end-result of the circumcision (though certainly that is very important!), as well as a reminder to parents that not all mohels are the same.
So here we have the hit list, and how I believe mohels could improve their own performance, and how parents could do their best to have the best possible experience.
Mohel Mistakes
1. Treating Bris Milah like a business.
Bris Milah is a mitzvah. Most people call a mohel because they need to, not because they want to. (They may want to because they need to, but if weren’t a mitzvah, they’d never call some stranger to do this to their child.) Ambulance chasing pregnant women, assigning exorbitant fees for services, and not giving the people the time of day to answer their questions because you’re on to the next client – all bad practices which shame the position of Mohel.
- It is important to let people know you are a mohel, but there are ways to do it which are not creepy.
- Your services should be compensated (and hopefully people are appreciative and generous), but there is an element of giving to the community that this kind of “service-industry” must provide
- The exception to this is when a mohel has a long distance to travel – he should make clear that travel time and travel expenses need to be compensated (and the parents should be aware as well – the mohel need not accept the job, but the parents have the responsibility to see that the bris take place)
- Follow-up is essential – whether a visit, or regular phone calls. Parents must be made to feel that you care about their baby. And you, having helped the baby bear the mark of the Covenant, MUST care about him.
2. Not Maintaining the Highest Sterility Standards and Practices for Care
It is the 21st century. There is no excuse – NO EXCUSE – for not following the following protocols:
- All instruments autoclaved in sterile packages and brought to the bris unopened until setup time
- Laying instruments and bandages on a sterile drape (not a laundered diaper cloth or recieving blanket)
- Wearing sterile gloves for the entire procedure (priah can be done with thin gloves!)
- Covering the baby so that the sandak is not touching him directly
- Doing metzitzah with a sterile tube stuffed with gauze – to prevent all transfer of body fluids from mohel to baby and baby to mohel
- Using a surgical marker to note the edge of the foreskin – to remove the proper amount of skin, certainly no less and hopefully not much more – and following the mark when operating!
These may be adjustments for some old-timers, but the adherence to older, unacceptable standards, makes Bris Milah (especially in the hands of some less-careful mohels) less desirable, not more desirable.
3. Using Unsafe Methods for Circumcising
The goal of a bris is to remove the foreskin and the membrane beneath it (and only that amount of skin), while protecting every other part of the penis, including the glans, the rest of the shaft and the scrotum. While I do not advocate the use of any clamp (for halakhic and safety reasons), for safety reasons only those who are absolutely expert in their use can use them (and they still run MAJOR risks). Also, those that use the freehand method, without any device that protects the glans, should NEVER be allowed to operate. They argue that their method is safe and hurts the baby least of all. But when their method causes amputations, it’s hard to argue that their method is least harmful to babies.
The traditional shield, a metal plate with a slit in it and no clamping mechanism, is the safest way to assure that only the foreskin is removed in the traditional circumcision procedure.
4. Not Double-checking afterwards that all is OK
Not every bris goes perfectly during the ceremony. Whether the incision is uneven, or there is more priah (membrane) remaining after the circumcision, or the baby is bleeding, all of these “problems” are easily correctable within five minutes of the ceremony. A mohel who does not check the bandage or the bleeding, or that the aesthetics of the bris are pleasing is doing the baby and his parents a horrendous disservice. In the last month alone I met with a few people who told me stories (either personal or from the person to which it happened) of a baby who needed a blood transfusion after the bris (which is extremely rare, but is indicative of the mohel doing something wrong), of a baby who needed corrective surgery to remove excess membrane, and of a baby who needed a skin graft to fix a poorly done circumcision.
Simply put, the mohel may not leave the baby until the baby’s circumcision looks as perfect as possible, and the baby is absolutely not bleeding.
I know not what God wants anymore than anyone else does. As a Jew who believes in the Torah, I believe God wants us to circumcise our sons, and that there are a few other requirements as to what is supposed to take place during a bris – mostly that the baby be healthy and in a good place within minutes of the ceremony.
Beyond the inherent risk that the surgery of foreskin removal (the definition of Bris Milah) provides, the entire process must be reduced to the absolute minimal risk.
And the only kind of talk people should have about their mohel is how wonderful and caring he was, and how good a job he did. Mohels are entrusted not just with a tremendous mitzvah, but with a very important and delicate part of the body. We dare not be arrogant about what we are doing or treat our work lightly. If we do, it’s time to find a different profession.